The internet has slammed a sibling after they called their brother's wedding "not traditional."
In a viral post published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a sibling under the anonymous username u/gentlemayonaise shared their story for feedback from the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 4,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began their story by explaining that their brother is soon to be married to his wife. However, the OP wrote they aren't having a "traditional" wedding. They said the bride wasn't wearing white, the groom isn't wearing a suit, the officiant was a friend, and the cake will be colorful. The couple also had planned to have their small wedding at the bride's family's lake house and have the reception there as well. The OP believes that the wedding will be more of a "party" rather than a wedding.
The OP explained that the wedding party was instructed to wear green and they joked that they would just wear a bikini and pack things for the lake instead of wearing a dress. Their brother reminded them that there will be a photographer and that it would "be nice" if they wore something business casual.
The OP wrote, "I told him if he really wanted wedding pictures he should probably have a wedding and not just a party. With the guidelines he gave and hands off approach the photos likely won't look very good or cohesive. There are so many shades of green it won't look as good as a normal weddings anyways. Plus his fiancée is wearing 'a traditional African dress' so it's very pretty but it just looks like a party dress and very highly patterned so it's going to clash no matter what.
"My brother got very quiet and sad and I've been arguing with my other siblings and mom about it ever since. The way I see it they are paying maybe 5 grand, probably less for this event so they need to accept that it won't be as aesthetically pleasing as a wedding like mine for example that was 10x that. I simply am stating the fact that it seems their expectations do not meet the execution and I don't think that makes me an a**hole but they do," they concluded.
In a recent update to the post, the OP realizes that they were in the wrong and plans on apologizing. They confirm that their future sister-in-law is not African as her mother is from Jamaica and that it's "not a traditional African wedding." She writes that she wants to protect the bride from being called an "appropriator."
Newsweek reached out to u/gentlemayonaise for comment.
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"[You're the a**hole]. Your brother's wedding sounds true to who they are and what they want. Not everyone wants to waste money on 'aesthetically pleasing' photos and basing choices of what the wedding industry says you should have," u/Somnitree exclaimed, receiving the top comment of over 14,000 upvotes.
"Thank you for putting your xenophobia and racism blatantly out there," u/Miserable_Airport_66 wrote, "[You're the a**hole] is not your wedding. No one cares what you think. Either go or don't go but let them have the wedding of THEIR dreams without your commentary."
"[You're the a**hole] Is this wedding actually non-traditional or is it just traditions you happen to look down upon? What kind of tasteless woman would show up in a bikini when business casual is requested? You are incredibly trashy," u/FunkyOrangePenguin said.
U/Mysterious_Friend_52 commented, "[You're the a**hole]. His only expectation was to have some nice photos. Not perfect or necessarily pinterest-worthy, just nice. And you just s**t all over that idea. Why? What exactly did anyone gain from you saying that?"
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